Yesterday, one of the students looked at me (my thighs) and said very nonchalantly..."Have you gained weight?" Are you freakin kidding me? Really, lady? Did you really just ask me that?

I couldn't believe she said that, so I told her it was rude. "It's not very nice to ask someone that.", I said. And her reply was...
"Oh, it just looks like you gained weight. I can tell." (And she points to my thighs.) She continued to speak, without any expression in her face that it was bothering me. She said, "I remember seeing you after you did your 60 day challenge, and you were really thin, remember?"

So I asked her, "Wouldn't it bother you if I said that to you?" And she said nonchalantly..."No, it wouldn't bother me at all. I would be fine if someone noticed that I had gained weight, and that I needed to work on myself."
And that's when I walked away feeling oh so GREAT about myself, and my thighs, and REALLY excited that I had to go teach a class now with her in the front row. Boy was I thrilled.

Let me go over 4 points about this situation,

Point 1 - THINGS YOU SHOULD NOT SAY TO PEOPLE YOU BARELY KNOW. -

Have you gained weight?
Are you pregnant?
Are you tired?

Don't tell people...
You look fat.
Your thighs look big.
You look tired.
You look depressed.
You look ugly.
You smell.
You are jiggly.
You have a big zit on your face.
Your boyfriend/girlfriend is butt ugly.
You pants are too tight.
You have cameltoe.

HELLO??!! Don't say these things to someone you don't know very well.

You know what really sucks...is that she probably won't even read this blog, because I have a feeling people with no common sense don't read this blog.

AN IMPORTANT POINT 2 -

LIKE I DON'T KNOW THAT I'VE GAINED WEIGHT! HELLO?!?!?!!! I'm a freakin girl. WE ALL REALIZE WHEN WE HAVE GAINED WEIGHT!

So what does it accomplish telling someone this, when they already know they are heavier?

Nothing. If I wanted to lose weight, then I would do something about it.

You telling someone this, just makes them feel bad about themselves and their body.

- Come on woman, think!

I have been eating too much, and having way too much unhealthy fun. I am still very active, but I've been taking in too many calories. Too much food.

I'm 5'3 and every pound shows up on my butt, and thighs.

So, I was already aware of this.

- Thanks woman for reminding me.

POINT 3 -

What a shame. I know people are thinking this, but they don't say it out loud.

Jeez loueeze - can we stop FREAKIN JUDGING EACHOTHER?

Admit the truth - at least once -
You have looked at someone's butt or thighs, or belly and thought -"Oh - she's/he's been eating too much."
WHY DO WE DO THIS? Even in our heads.

Can we stop judging?

If someone gains weight/loses weight...

Let them be.

Take care of your self.

Take care of your own body.

POINT 4 -

The "bright" side. Even though I already freakin knew I needed to eat less and get slimmer -
Maybe this comment will motivate me to get on it a bit quicker now.

Also - she is a teacher!

EVERYONE IS HERE TO TEACH US LESSONS (Oh yay)

She taught me that I am not evolved enough yet along my spiritual path of not caring what others think, and I need to work on Non judgment, and being more kind to myself and taking care of my body.

So thank you rude lady comment for that lesson.

Now, in closing...

People already know what you are thinking, and what you are judging about them - because we all judge ourselves first...
and THAT is a shame.

So that is what I will be working on now.

NOT JUDGING MYSELF, OR YOU.

Peace
Andrea

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